The age of anxiety and opportunity

I was reading a Billy Graham article about how we are all living in this age of anxiety where we want to be better than other people, we want to have our lives figured out, but we do not. We have no idea where to go. With globalization, friends and family are no longer concentrated in the area where they met, and people are more willing to change career paths even if it means starting from the bottom again. I think this is the portion of my life where I appreciate the quote, ‘change is the only constant’.

Religion is increasingly being seen as archaic and not necessary, and yet some are turning to religion because it offers a stable path in life. The stability that it offers is interesting because there is a whole premise that there is a supreme being out there looking out for us, all the lucky breaks in life are due to that one God. Which takes a lot of burden off our shoulders and we are content being hardworking and meek. There is no fight to prove yourself in your industry because whatever you do, it is supposed to be at the right time. There are questions about where this is going but there is no hurry to find an answer, because things will come at the right moment, only we are too young to understand it.

When I was younger I used to think that adults with big cars have no internal struggles. That if they have a job, a maid, two kids, living in a landed property, it means that their life is set and they can go on this path for the rest of their lives. And then I grew up and I realised that in seven weeks, I will officially no longer be a student. I won’t qualify for movie ticket discounts anymore. But my internal struggles are still with me. They morphed over the years- I am rarely insecure about my weight now- but they are still here.

Last night, a few friends whom I haven’t seen in a while was talking to me online about their insecurities, not just career anxiety related but about how they felt about their friendships and their pace in life. I think I realised then that no matter what stage of life you are in, there is a possibility that you are still holding on to the relationships which are bad for you, people who judge you and you are still afraid to move out of your comfort zone. There is no age zone where you can change your perspective on life and what works for me will not work for other people.

To hear the phrase “our only hope” always makes one anxious, because it means that if the only hope doesn’t work, there is nothing left.
― Lemony Snicket, The Blank Book