In this way, “knowing yourself” or “finding yourself” can be dangerous. It can cement you into a strict role and saddle you with unnecessary expectations. It can close you off to inner potential and outer opportunities.
I say don’t find yourself. I say never know who you are. Because that’s what keeps you striving and discovering. And it forces you to remain humble in your judgments and accepting of the differences in others.
-Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F_ck
So far, the best idea I’ve heard about building grit in kids is something called growth mindset. This is an idea developed at Stanford University by Carol Dweck, and it is the belief that the ability to learn is not fixed. That it can change with your effort. Dr. Dweck has shown that when kids read and learn about the brain and how it changes and grows in response to challenge, they’re much more likely to persevere when they fail because they don’t believe that failure is a permanent condition.
One thing I realised a few days ago is that there is no point worrying about the future. The future will never happen, we can only live in the moment. And anyway my plans never work out. I plan really well, but the experience is not what I expected. Hence it is better to not think about the future public speaking test, the future quiz, the nameless eternity that lies ahead.
And since I don’t have any expectations, I appreciate everything and am able to be in the moment. Go with the flow is a much easier approach to life, and to me, equally rewarding.